Day 4:       Where Are You Now?

You have a list of things you would like to do with your life.  And you have a list of talents and experiences which are the tools at your disposal to get you to that dream life.  Let’s take stock of where you are now so we can see how far you have to go to get to your dream life.

Where do you live geographically?  Are you happy living here or do you want to live somewhere else?

Do you own your own home or rent?

Are you still in school?  Do you have a degree?

Are you working in the field of your choice?

Are you close to family and friends? And do you see them on a regular basis?

Do you have money left at the end of the month or too much month at the end of your money?

How much do you have set aside in savings and investments?  Equity in your home? 

Does your wardrobe reflect the real you?

Does your spouse/significant other share your long-term goals?

What responsibilities do you have towards others (spouse, children, parents, job, siblings)?

What do you daydream/fantasize about?

Take a look at the things in your life that aren’t congruent with who you think you are or who you want to be.  For me, I took a look in the mirror one day and realized the extra thirty pounds I thought didn’t look too bad really didn’t look too good either.  Truth is, they made me look like a frumpy, middle-aged woman.  And I don’t see myself as a frumpy, middle-aged woman.  The outside wasn’t matching my inside.   Facing my present reality and realizing that it wasn’t what I wanted it to be motivated me to lose the weight when all my earlier diet efforts had failed.  I thought:  “This is not who I am.” 

Do the major factors in your life (housing, geographical area, family, friends, job, money, even clothes) fit in with the picture you want of yourself?  If not, you now know the areas you want to work on.  And that is half the battle.